Marriage

Having been with my wife for 22 yrs & married for 17 yrs, I think I can offer some good advice on relationships & making them work.

It doesn't matter if you are in a same sex marriage or the conventional marriage, it takes work. Hard work at times. My wife, always let me have the decisions when discussing issues. But I knew that she was my better half & more than likely, I would base my final decision on what she thought.

In relationships, it is important to know what you're weakness are & what your partners strengths are, because if you can recognize that, your marriage will be well balanced. My wife & I compliment each other, because where she is weak, I am strong & where I am weak, she is strong. Our relationship has always been 50/50. I have learned over the years that it is best to always discuss things before moving on with decisions. I have gotten in trouble or should I say in the Dog House by " Jumping before Looking". My wife always points out the obvious points that I didn't think about.

No relationship is perfect & couples often disagree & there is a saying that I heard Joyce Myers said that I always went by. Rather then just be right in everything, always leave room for the possibility for being wrong. She said " I think I'm right, but I could be wrong"....This always left the door open for more discussion.

When arguing, as I like to call them, difference of opinion, the best skill to use is your Listening skills. When your partner is making a point, don't be thinking about what you will say as soon as he/she is done. Rather Listen intently & then respond to what was said & sometimes by repeating what was said to you, allows your partner to know that you actually heard what was said.

Finally, the Bible says " Don't let the sun go down on your anger". In other words, my wife & I would often not go to sleep until our difference's were resolved. If you do, you may find that your anger festered & was worse the next day.

I love my Wife more today, then I did yesterday & more so tomorrow.

Don't be afraid to Communicate, don't hold back, we can't read minds !!!